This is a question I’m most certain, we as guys ask ourselves all the time: What is she gonna ask me to do next?
I just buried my beautiful wife’s dog today!
Let me give you a little background on my fair maiden; she’s 20 years my junior, very beautiful(yes that's her)and one of the most compassionate of God’s great creatures that I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. I have been told many times over that I’m a lucky man!
I am married to a woman who could be a model, that cooks as though she’s been on this earth for a lifetime and is willing to attend to my every need. I ask myself daily; what have I done to deserve this type of woman? To the best of my knowledge, nothing! Although she tells me everyday that I’m her saving grace, which couldn’t be further from the truth(okay, maybe we belong to the mutual admiration society)but truthfully I’ve done nothing to deserve what she has given except… attempt to become her Renaissance man!
Burying a family pet is not necessarily worthy of heroic mention, and many of us guys myself included, understand that she was just a dog. She wasn’t a person, or a cherished family pet that had been raised from a puppy. She wasn’t even a dog who had lived with us for years, she was a stray that someone had left to fend for herself. A stray my wife decided(on her own), needed a home and a family. She was right! She did need a home, she did deserve to be fed and she also deserved to be loved, which is exactly what my fair maiden did… she loved her!
I have worked many jobs in my life(writing has only recently become a passion), and one of the many jobs I held was as an Firefighter/EMT. I worked for over ten years in this field while seeing many things that shaped my young mind, which also brought about emotional responses within me that I had to learn to deal with. For me, the only possibility of handling this type of stress was to put them on the emotional back burner, which helped me to cope with the loss of others. There are a lot of people who don’t understand the dissociation public servants must attain in order to perform their daily routines, but I assure you these measures must be taken in order to risk everything for someone else while remaining marginally sane yourself.
What does this have to do with being a Renaissance Man you might ask… everything. We must be strong for our loved ones, willing to protect them from anything while remaining sensitive to their needs, which is the task that takes the most work. We as men understand and develop a callousness toward the hardships of daily life and we must(we can’t go around the jobsite asking for a tissue every time we have a tender moment), because; How could we not? We have jobs to perform, money to be made and Universes to Conquer! Right? Exactly… but we also have a job to perform at home and this is where we need to be able to take off the armor we don every morning when we step out into the real world….
This is where we have to show our compassion, and it takes an awful lot of effort to do so. We have to remove that armor… and most guys, myself included(at least during 90 percent of my adult life)get lazy, deciding to leave it on all the time. Why should I be the one to work so hard, is a question we end up asking ourselves. She should just understand, right? I’m sure she does most of the time, the question is: Should she have to?
I guess the answer to that question is; What do you want? I myself decided(the moment I met my fair maiden, almost six years ago) that I wanted a real woman, a woman of passion. How any man could not want to be with a woman who completely satisfies his every need… completely escapes me. To be with your complete feminine equal requires finesse, hard work and dedication, but trust me it’s worth all the effort. I have discovered a friend that will do anything for me, who works harder at(not always succeeding, we all make mistakes)satisfying me, than anyone I’ve ever been with. She is my Queen and I am her King! The benefits have been mind blowing I assure you, yet they come with a price. Strong women, women of moral principle who stand behind us and support us every step of the way, are the type of women who are deserving of being called fair maidens. Finding one is rare, keeping one happy is rarer still.
At what length must a man, a Renaissance man go to for his fair maiden?
I buried my beautiful wife’s dog today! I dug that grave, I carried that animal into a beautiful wooded surrounding, and I was the shoulder for my overly emotional wife to lean on. I stood as strong and resilient as the old oak tree her dog was buried under while my wife said goodbye, I also gave her time to mourn the loss, even though emotionally I did not connect with this animal the same way. Then I buried that poor animal, saying a quick prayer over her as my sobbing wife made her way back to our house. I will mark this stray dog’s grave for her. I will listen to my wife’s funny stories about this animal… and laugh with her. I will even shed a tear… not for the loss of the animal(guys understand about these things), but for the loss my wife feels, because in her mind it’s real!
At what length must we go… to whatever lengths our fair maidens need us to! Becoming a Renaissance man is a journey intended not only to gain access to our perfect 10’s(this is not just a pick-up guide), or to become Masters of our Universe(or a get-rich guide)…. It is also to become a well-rounded human being, one that is worthy and deserving of our women’s love and devotion.
We must transform ourselves into many people throughout our lives; a Don Juan to provide the romance and passion, a Warrior to provide protection, a King Solomon to provide wisdom and judiciousness… and even a Mother Teresa(at times) to provide the sensitivity and comfort our women deserve, all while maintaining and preserving ourselves(we still need to be a guy every now and again).
This is why we as guys need to share our experiences, talk about the things we’ve done as well as the things we haven’t and figure out how we can accomplish the insurmountable tasks we need to… everyday. So let me hear your comments(men and women) alike, and we‘ll make this journey together while we attempt to give sound advice on becoming a Renaissance man in the 21st Century!
Check out the next article… evaluating your goals!
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